Some secular women, having tried everything, are now considering that perhaps their self-absorbed approach is not working. 'In a shocking admonition, love expert Andrea Miller over at Your Tango, a website dedicated to love and relationships...has suggested the radical idea that the wife's job is, in fact, to make her husband happy. She explains, 'Too often these women---even the strongest, smartest, and most independent of the---weirdly believe that if they inflict enough pain back onto their partners or exact enough control over them, they'll suddenly get with the program. Instead, the opposite usually happens. Their partners---not feeling loved enough and tired of feeling nagged, controlled, and criticized---do the opposite. They withdraw and tune out. And the cycle of drama and dysfunction only becomes more vicious and protracted.